Spring is slowly arriving and one of my favorite past times is playing golf. Like most individual sports, golf is a game of integrity. It’s about doing your best and playing against yourself. If you’re not honest with yourself about your score, then when are you honest?
As most of us do, we have a select group of people that we associate with and like to hang around…. So, I ask WHY? I limited my golf partners to people who I enjoy spending time with. I am not a competitive golfer; however, I do play in tournaments and partake in a golf membership “Men’s Club.” I don’t like to keep track of other people’s scores and as long as we have a nice time together, I don’t care what my partner shoots. I play with all levels of players because I started out as a beginner, too.
There was a time, when I used to play with a couple of friends, and by the way, they were good golfers. It seems that because they were good, they thought it was ok to drop another ball when they hit an errand shot. They didn’t take a penalty stroke on the scorecard. When they got on the green, as long as they were within 6-8 feet of the hole, they casually stroked the ball. Whether the ball when in the hole or if it didn’t matter because they were “entitled,” and of course, did not count the extra putt. Needless to say, I stopped playing with these guys because it made me feel uneasy. I didn’t care if they shot an 82 or 88, nor an 84 or a 91. We weren’t playing for money, so who cares? They way they scored their game made me begin to scrutinize who they were as individuals and as how they acted as business associates. I further learned about the shady deals they were doing business or the shortcuts that nobody would notice and they were taking liberties that they were not entitled to take.
The game of golf is like the game of life. Every stroke counts and when we get into hazards or run into troubles, we have to find ways to circumvent them. You cannot have integrity some of the time.
Today, I no longer will play golf with these people. I will no longer do business with these people and I no longer socialize with them.
The way people act in a group or as individuals portrays a lot. Choose the people you associate with because they might be a reflection on you.